Scene addition/insertions week: slow boil

 If you are not sufficiently aggressive, you will be treated like shit. Different contexts and domains dress up that aggression differently. It can be raw displays of physical violence, wittiness and humour, formal intellectual domination - any number of things - but the theme is always clear regardless of culture, class and context. Are you strong? How does it look when you bear your teeth? Can you inspire fear in the hearts of others? Can you make the tough decisions under pressure when the situation calls for it? What is the essence of the stuff you are made from? Will you crumble, or push through? What strength do you possess that means when I look at you I should respect you? Show me your force of being, your intensity, your soul - wear your darkness - show me your power.

The secret to downgrading.( the mismatch in access)

 

The Loli demon split. ( That's why you see people losing their little minds)

 

https://x.com/ScarlettBrocker/status/2101050225297166425?s=20

Stupid grin on his face.

 Some relationships don’t need to end. They need to transition. And transition is not punishment. Moving someone from friend to acquaintance doesn’t diminish their value as a person. It simply acknowledges the limits of what the relationship can realistically hold.

A lot of relational disappointment comes from repeatedly asking people for what they have consistently demonstrated they do not have to give.

For you, friendship may mean service, sacrifice, consideration, inconvenience, emotional depth and showing up when it costs you something. For someone else, friendship may mean good conversation, shared interests, occasional outings and enjoying each other when it’s convenient.

Neither automatically makes someone a bad person. But those two definitions may not be compatible enough to sustain the same kind of friendship.

That’s where discernment matters. Stop turning every incompatibility into an indictment of someone’s character. Sometimes there is no villain. There is simply a difference in values, expectations, relational capacity or investment.

Maturity is learning to accept what people have shown you and adjusting your expectations and access accordingly.

You can love people without requiring them to occupy your inner circle. You can appreciate what someone can offer without resenting them for what they cannot. Some relationships become healthier when we stop trying to make them deeper than they were ever equipped to be, friend.

waiting for John to leave.

 

Birth fear cured.

CarusGator

@CarusGator

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I delivered a 10 lb 12 oz baby in the front seat of our truck. The firemen kept trying to recline my seat. Nope. 45 degree angle is optimal. No pain. No tears. Bradley Method. Felt like superwoman!

 Transition was 8:15-9:30. The contractions were so intense, I describe it as a freight train going through my body. I was shaking during them toward the end. Low moaning. Husband pushing on my back for counter pressure. But rest in between each one. My water broke at 9:35 and then it was all over. Not a single ounce of intensity or “pain” followed. I squatted in that position. I breathed. I felt his head, felt my tissues expand as he crowned, and then the rest of his body slipped out and he was up on my chest. I wasn’t screaming. I wasn’t in pain. I wasn’t even sweaty. Stubbing your toe is painful. Contractions after birth when your uterus shrinks back down are painful Labor contractions are a deep, intense pressure. Your mental preparation, what you believe about contractions, what you believe your body is capable of AND your environment have a HUGE impact on your pain. With my first I was terrified. Tense. Trying to bare down and grit my teeth through each one. Vomitting. Hospital. Strangers. Bright lights. With my third I was swaying, welcoming each surge, working with my body, trusting my body. Home. Living room. Low lights. My husband and my midwife. You can do this! You were made for this!

Rebecca Kay

@becathome4

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20h

The exact position I was in when I delivered my third at home without pushing - I breathed him down and my body did the work. And I didn’t tear at all. He was 9.2 lbs. Forcing women to lay flat on their back is part of the reason labors don’t go smoothly. It is not how our bodies are designed to give birth.