Stupid grin on his face.

 Some relationships don’t need to end. They need to transition. And transition is not punishment. Moving someone from friend to acquaintance doesn’t diminish their value as a person. It simply acknowledges the limits of what the relationship can realistically hold.

A lot of relational disappointment comes from repeatedly asking people for what they have consistently demonstrated they do not have to give.

For you, friendship may mean service, sacrifice, consideration, inconvenience, emotional depth and showing up when it costs you something. For someone else, friendship may mean good conversation, shared interests, occasional outings and enjoying each other when it’s convenient.

Neither automatically makes someone a bad person. But those two definitions may not be compatible enough to sustain the same kind of friendship.

That’s where discernment matters. Stop turning every incompatibility into an indictment of someone’s character. Sometimes there is no villain. There is simply a difference in values, expectations, relational capacity or investment.

Maturity is learning to accept what people have shown you and adjusting your expectations and access accordingly.

You can love people without requiring them to occupy your inner circle. You can appreciate what someone can offer without resenting them for what they cannot. Some relationships become healthier when we stop trying to make them deeper than they were ever equipped to be, friend.

waiting for John to leave.

 

Birth fear cured.

CarusGator

@CarusGator

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I delivered a 10 lb 12 oz baby in the front seat of our truck. The firemen kept trying to recline my seat. Nope. 45 degree angle is optimal. No pain. No tears. Bradley Method. Felt like superwoman!

 Transition was 8:15-9:30. The contractions were so intense, I describe it as a freight train going through my body. I was shaking during them toward the end. Low moaning. Husband pushing on my back for counter pressure. But rest in between each one. My water broke at 9:35 and then it was all over. Not a single ounce of intensity or “pain” followed. I squatted in that position. I breathed. I felt his head, felt my tissues expand as he crowned, and then the rest of his body slipped out and he was up on my chest. I wasn’t screaming. I wasn’t in pain. I wasn’t even sweaty. Stubbing your toe is painful. Contractions after birth when your uterus shrinks back down are painful Labor contractions are a deep, intense pressure. Your mental preparation, what you believe about contractions, what you believe your body is capable of AND your environment have a HUGE impact on your pain. With my first I was terrified. Tense. Trying to bare down and grit my teeth through each one. Vomitting. Hospital. Strangers. Bright lights. With my third I was swaying, welcoming each surge, working with my body, trusting my body. Home. Living room. Low lights. My husband and my midwife. You can do this! You were made for this!

Rebecca Kay

@becathome4

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The exact position I was in when I delivered my third at home without pushing - I breathed him down and my body did the work. And I didn’t tear at all. He was 9.2 lbs. Forcing women to lay flat on their back is part of the reason labors don’t go smoothly. It is not how our bodies are designed to give birth.

No longer bothered. #the american #leave him to his fate.

 

Upsetting the neighbours to restore the emf balance.

 1. The ritual was called “Wičháŋpi Wóyute” — star feeding.

Lakota healers used it for those who lost loved ones or survived violence. The person didn’t talk about the trauma. They fed it. They’d gather stones representing the pain, then carry them to a river and release them one by one while speaking the memory out loud to the water. The final stone was kept as a reminder that grief was witnessed, not erased. 2. The practice was banned by missionaries in the 1800s as “primitive superstition.” But in 2019, Johns Hopkins trauma researchers recreated it with PTSD patients. They found the physical act of releasing objects while verbalizing trauma engages both hemispheres of the brain — something talk therapy alone doesn’t achieve. Results after 6 sessions: • PTSD symptom reduction: 73% • Intrusive thoughts decreased by 81% • Emotional regulation improved 6x faster than traditional therapy 3. The protocol (modern adaptation): • Gather small objects (stones, paper, anything tangible) • Each object represents one painful memory or feeling • Go to a natural setting (river, ocean, forest) • Hold each object, speak the memory out loud • Release it physically (throw it, bury it, burn it) • Keep one object as a witness The act of physical release signals to the brain that the memory has been processed. 4. Therapy organizations pushed back hard. One psychologist association called it: “Unscientific and potentially harmful.” But the data showed otherwise. The modern therapy model profits from long-term treatment. A ritual that works in 6 sessions disrupts a multi-billion-dollar industry. 5. Try it with one painful memory. Lakota healers said: “The wound that’s held grows. The wound that’s released heals.” Your brain doesn’t need endless analysis. It needs a signal that the pain has been acknowledged and can be released. Most people are still carrying stones from decades ago. via Wolf Spirit

#Indigenous #NativeAmerican #Grief #Healing