Mental health is not about "how you feel," it's about "how you feel about how you feel." It's okay to feel any or all the ways...it's the getting okay with how we feel that is often the hurdle. (This one was a NUGGET.)
"What other people say about you is information about *them*, not you."
"You emotional needs matter as much as your physical needs."
"Do the right thing not the nice thing"
Asked, "How do I say no?" Answer, "You just say NO. You don't have to justify your NO. It is a full statement. It sets a boundary."
Letting people know your expectations & if something bothers you early, be upfront (if you’re comfortable). It is one of the best services you can do for yourself.
When I complained about family drama my therapist said “you know, you don’t HAVE to love them. I release you from the burden of loving them”
Things that served you as a child, such as how you interacted with people to protect yourself, may not serve you as an adult. Unlearning is as important as learning. Also, read “The Body Keeps the Score.”
"make process goals, not results goals"
an old therapist of mine told me the reason we sometimes seek out toxic and "unattainable" partners, or seek the chase, is because we're subconsciously looking for validation for our feelings of unworthiness
"What we permit, we promote"
you’re not crazy. Your values simply aren’t aligned with what this system currently rewards.
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