Here's some things you can say instead of giving unsolicited advice:
1. "I can imagine that's a really tough situation"
2. "How can I support you?"
3. "That sounds hurtful."
4. "I'm just here to listen."
5. "I know you know what's best for you in this situation."
This might feel awkward especially if you do have a pattern of being a fixer. You will need to sit within uncomfortable feelings and allow another person to be within them as well.
With practice, you'll see how differently people respond to you holding space and how much more connected you feel to those around you.
