All about pete/ I dont care any more.

 

 A neurologist revealed: people don’t lose feelings — the brain shuts down the circuit that enables love. And it occurs from one particular event:

1. He explained love doesn’t “fade.” What fades is the salience circuit — the network that signals the brain, “this person matters.” When a partner repeatedly violates an expectation you never expressed but deeply relied on, the salience system flips. Not gradually. Immediately. The brain stops marking their signals as meaningful.

2. The event is nearly always the same: a moment when you see the person’s actual priority, and it’s not you. Not betrayal. Not ab*se. Something quieter: they pick convenience over you, comfort over you, audience over you, ego over you — and your nervous system detects a mismatch between who you believed they were and who they really are.

3. The neurologist said the shift appears in scans as a drop in prediction coupling — the brain stops anticipating the partner’s responses. That’s why people say, “I don’t recognize them anymore.” You’re not losing connection. You’re losing the internal model that previously made connection effortless.

4. The harsh part: once this switch flips, affection doesn’t vanish — it becomes non-routable. The emotional signal fires, but has nowhere to go. That’s why you feel numb, confused, or suddenly indifferent. The brain protects you by disabling the circuitry that would keep you attached to someone who’s no longer safe for your identity.

5. His advice was the most shocking thing he stated: “Feelings don’t die. They wait for a safer target.” If you want the circuit restored, don’t chase the person — rebuild the predictability your nervous system lost. Consistency, clarity, and follow-through reopen the salience network. Without these, the brain keeps love locked behind a firewall you can’t override through will.

I've been a professional fiction writer since 2002. Here's what I've learned.

This list assumes your books are good enough. You'll know when you know. 1. Write when you can. Finish what you start. Self-publish what you finish. Repeat. 2. You don't need gatekeepers. 3. The only thing you should pay for is cover art (and maybe formatting if you haven't learned how to do that yourself.) People do judge a book by its cover. 4. The only advertising that ever worked for me is BookBub, and that doesn't work as well as it used to. Your best advertising is writing a good book. 5. Kindle Unlimited earns more than going wide on all platforms. Make sure your Amazon listing sings. 6. Your online presence will not help sell books. Social media doesn't boost sales. 7. Don't read your reviews, or worry about reviews at all. 8. Periodic sales and discounts and freebies increase units sold and income generated. 9. Be polite, gracious, humble, and thankful. 10. Don't stress over sales. Just keep improving your craft. 11. Never give up.