Diary done. Wall art made.

 

Some relationships have deepened. The rest will effortlessly go.

 

Saturday afternoon movies: and I didnt even talk about it once.

 

Ro-han taking the piss/Bye bye beautiful man.

 

Blocking the water meters.

 1. Love Shouldn’t Cost You Yourself: There’s a line she repeats—“You are not the hero of their story.” That line alone snapped something back into place for me. I had been exhausting myself trying to save, fix, or rescue others, thinking that was love. But Lysa gently insists: real love doesn’t require self-destruction. If being “there for them” means abandoning yourself, that’s not love—it’s codependency. This lesson was permission to step back without guilt. For anyone tangled in a draining relationship, this message will feel like oxygen.

2. Boundaries Aren’t Meant to Push People Away—They’re Meant to Keep Love Safe: Lysa paints boundaries not as walls, but as doors with locks—ways to protect what’s sacred. I’d always felt like boundaries were a form of rejection. But listening to her reframe them as loving limits made me realize: boundaries preserve connection, not sever it. The way she breaks this down makes it so clear—if you want your love to be sustainable, it has to be structured. That structure comes from healthy boundaries.

3. Biblical Truth Doesn’t Equal Emotional Passivity: One of the most powerful moments was when she wove in Scripture—not to guilt-trip, but to illuminate. She showed how even Jesus walked away from toxic situations. He loved people, but he didn’t let manipulation drive his decisions. As someone who grew up in church settings that glorified self-sacrifice to unhealthy degrees, hearing Lysa say “It’s not un-Christian to say goodbye” was a deep relief. This lesson gives you both spiritual and emotional permission to protect your peace.

4. You Teach People How to Treat You by What You Allow: This one stung a little—in the best way. Lysa says that by continuing to tolerate hurtful behavior, you unintentionally train people that it’s okay. That realization stopped me cold. Listening to her unpack this made me reflect: What have I been permitting in silence? What have I endured out of fear of rocking the boat? She challenged me to change the story by first changing my responses. And it’s a challenge I needed.

5. Saying Goodbye Doesn’t Mean You Failed: There’s a chapter where she talks about her own painful goodbyes, and she says something like, “Sometimes, love says, ‘This can’t continue.’” Hearing that in her voice—full of grace and sorrow—hit differently. Goodbyes don’t always mean bitterness or anger. Sometimes, they’re the bravest act of love. This lesson helped me release the guilt I’d been carrying and replace it with peace.

6. Boundaries Without Consequences Are Just Suggestions: This one made me pause and rewind. Lysa talks about how we often state boundaries but never enforce them. And then we’re surprised when people don’t take them seriously. She drove it home by saying: “A boundary that’s not enforced is just a hope.” That shook me. If I want people to honor my limits, I have to honor them first by standing firm. It taught me to stop making empty threats and start following through—kindly, clearly, consistently.

7. Not Everyone Deserves Full Access to You: This might be the lesson that stuck with me the most. We think that being kind means being constantly available. But Lysa challenges that. She encourages us to think of our emotional space like a house—not everyone should be allowed past the front porch. That visual helped me. It gave me language and imagery to restructure the way I invite (or block) people into my life. For those who feel guilty for pulling back, this lesson gives a new way to understand emotional boundaries.

8. Healing Isn’t Instant—but It Starts With One Healthy Step: She doesn’t offer quick fixes. And honestly, I’m grateful. Lysa admits that healing from relational pain takes time. She talks about grief, loss, and the temptation to give up. But she also reminds you: you’re stronger than you think, and you’re allowed to take your time. This final lesson grounded me. It reminded me that I’m not behind. I’m not broken. I’m just becoming more whole, one boundary at a time.

Book/Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3RqHCk1

Saturday morning lie-in/pineal gland recovery/telling christian to shut up.

https://www.imdb.com/list/ls000019899/?ref_=exp_t_1

The internet is down

 

The sky freezes, as the ship rises deep in it's hull, banking almost vertical as it fights the torment of blue black moving motion. All men are bracing now, black figures buttoned up, their spirits almost spent,as they have warriored for days now in the black futility against the water and the ice. But there is one, that is more distinct than the rest, his blue cornish eyes stare out from beneath blonde cornish hair, the golden cornish face frozen, ruddy and complex. His name is Silas Weisbach, dark and solid he regards the torrent, unmoving from beneath a seaman's coat wrapped so high, his face is almost veiled. He is closed and as dark, and put away as the great sail, pulled and tightly coiled around him, Like all of his possessions the coat, and everything he owns came out of a great mahogany trunk, the teak, bought from Africa, and found one day in a way ward market, many summer's ago. A small, domestic earthy homely place where the great rolling coast of the green goes all the way down , and the small places cling to the land till it meets the deepest blue. Then he had been a young midship man, collecting ashore, stacking provisions, long before/and/ the Hindelacht had not yet set out on it's last and fatal voyage

But for now, he is pulled tightly and cannot think of the things that will not be seen again, because Sila Weibach, only son of his mother's love such knows as he watches the great bough rising, in the rough of the collapsing waters that at 23 years old the day that he was fated to leave this earth is finally, and undeniably here. MB

Post Barcelona strangle. Still filtered. Less strange.

 

Dr Dolly, and the HR no show.

https://ok.ru/video/1911013706287  

Vaseline to eyes,

 

" Wow...This could be even better " Sly #dayaftermojacarreset

 

garotteda

 

Pity coffees at the blue light/Elvis day 2

 

Conguitos ankle crunch

 

Creative spurts

 

Lisa Marie has left the building

 

New year walk+benicio baby!

 

Letting go of B #professional lines

 

Black pandy one

 

Wakanda forever in Brixton