Some relationships don’t need to end. They need to transition. And transition is not punishment. Moving someone from friend to acquaintance doesn’t diminish their value as a person. It simply acknowledges the limits of what the relationship can realistically hold.
A lot of relational disappointment comes from repeatedly asking people for what they have consistently demonstrated they do not have to give.
For you, friendship may mean service, sacrifice, consideration, inconvenience, emotional depth and showing up when it costs you something. For someone else, friendship may mean good conversation, shared interests, occasional outings and enjoying each other when it’s convenient.
Neither automatically makes someone a bad person. But those two definitions may not be compatible enough to sustain the same kind of friendship.
That’s where discernment matters. Stop turning every incompatibility into an indictment of someone’s character. Sometimes there is no villain. There is simply a difference in values, expectations, relational capacity or investment.
Maturity is learning to accept what people have shown you and adjusting your expectations and access accordingly.
You can love people without requiring them to occupy your inner circle. You can appreciate what someone can offer without resenting them for what they cannot. Some relationships become healthier when we stop trying to make them deeper than they were ever equipped to be, friend. 
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