"Thus, the desire creates the tension, which is resolved by getting what we want. Conversely, the belief that we cannot get what we want creates a tension that is resolved by failing to get what we want."
Now imagine that you move towards the wall in front of you, towards your desire and its realization. The more you advance, the more the elastic band behind you exerts its force, until you cannot continue and the elastic pulls you back.
Nous tendons vers notre objectif, mais la tension de notre croyance nous tire de plus en plus dans l'autre sens.
Now you are heading towards the other wall, the one with your limiting belief, but now it’s the elastic of your desire which slows you down, then ends up pulling you back.
The author then continues by telling us that there are three major strategies for compensating:
Remaining in a zone with tolerable conflict
Manipulation using conflict
Manipulation using will
Taking this third strategy as an example, many people try to use it by employing positive thinking: You program your mind with positive propaganda to get your subconscious on board and encourage its cooperation to control your life better, using statements, audio programs, self-hypnosis, positive reinforcement, motivational meetings, slogans and notes stuck on the bathroom mirror. But if you suppose that you can influence and direct your subconscious, what message are you giving it by using this kind of programming technique? It is very difficult to communicate with the subconscious. This requires special and extraordinary measures. The old “programs” have enormous powers. The subconscious is stupid and unruly. It must be treated like a child.
Chapter 8: Structural Tension
To change the existing structure, another structure must be called in, and this structure must 1) incorporate the previous structure and its conflicts and 2) convert a complex structure into a simple structure.
The master structure must be a system for simple resolution of tension, one that resolves, and that ideally resolves completely. This master structure is called structural tension.
The structural tension is built from two major components:
The vision of the outcome you want to create.
A clear vision of the reality that you currently have.
The tension between what you have and what you want will create the tension that will lead you to your desired outcome.Chapter 9: Vision
The best place to start the creative process is at the end. What is the outcome you want?
By knowing that you can move from concept, general and rich in possibilities, to vision, specific and focused, having laid to rest all the possibilities of the concept to focus on only some of its aspects.Here are the steps suggested by the author to find out what you want:
Ask yourself the question: what do I want?
It is amazing to see how many people do not ask themselves this obvious question. Ask it of yourself in every kind of situation. Make a habit of it. Find out what allows you to focus your attention quickly and to accurately describe the truth around you.
Think about what you want independently of considerations regarding the process.
Otherwise, you will limit your ability to envision the outcome to what you already know, but the creative process is fed with the discovery of what you don’t know.
Separate what you want from the possibilities that exist.
In the same way, do not limit what you want by what is possible. If you have cancer you want to be healthy. It may be impossible, but it is your deep desire. Don’t deny it.According to the author, there are many ways to make an ineffective choice:
Choice by limitation – choosing only what seems possible or reasonable.
Indirect choice – choosing the process instead of the result.
Choice by elimination – eliminating all of the other possibilities until you have only one choice remaining.
Default choice – the “choice” to not make a choice, so the result, whatever it is, doesn’t seem to come from a choice.
Conditional choice – imposing predefined conditions upon a choice.
Reactionary choice – choice designed to overcome a conflict.
Choice by concensus – find out what everyone recommends and base your choice on the results.
Choice by adverse possession – a choice based on a cloudy metaphysical idea about the nature of the universe.Exercise for Finding your Primary Choices
Make a list of everything you want, from today until the end of your life. Include both your personal and professional desires. Don’t limit yourself to what’s possible or probable. Treat this list like a first draft.
Re-read your list to make sure that you’ve included all the major components of your life.
Test all the items in your list with this question: “If I could have it, would I take it?” If your response is no, cross this off of your list. If your response is yes, formalize your choice by saying “I choose this result: <insert what it is you want>”
Continue the process until you have chosen all the things you truly want on the list.
A Secondary Choice helps us to advance a step towards our primary goal. If we hope to cook a good meal (primary choice), we have to buy the ingredients at the supermarket (secondary choice).
A Fundamental Choice is a choice we make towards the orientation of our life and our existence. Primary choices only concern themselves and secondary choices support primary choices.A fundamental choice is a foundation upon which primary and secondary choices are laid.
If you haven’t made a fundamental choice to stop smoking, no matter which system or method you try, you will never quit. If you have made the choice, it doesn’t matter what method you use. To be a non-smoker is a basic choice of existence and it is very different from the choice to be a smoker who is trying to quit. It’s a choice made with the soul.The Pivot Technique
This technique is a tool that allows us to better represent reality to ourselves and use undesirable circumstances like a catalyst to help us move towards what we want.
Describe where you are. Don’t hesitate to tell yourself “I am lost. I don’t know in what direction my destination lies.”
Describe where you want to be.
Once again, formalize the results that you want. Say “I choose…” and add the result that you want to obtain.
Advance. Once you have described where you are (actual reality) and where you want to go (vision) and you’ve formally chosen the results that you want (re-establishing structural tension), change the focus of your mind so that it quickly thinks beyond the unexpected situation. Change the subject.
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