1.Ask them what their story is. Ask them what is true for them
2. let them complete their story
3. Tell it back to them
3. validate the parts that are true
4. Never gaslight someone else's story, it's true for them. Let them have it. Receive it, it's not a threat to you. Learn how to take psychological punches.
How to take psychological punches.
1. Know that the perception of it as a punch is not real. It's not a punch, it's just hurt. An injured person is looking for loving kindness. You have to be able to withstand someone else's truth, ie hold space and bear witness.
2. Its not my turn yet. The other person always goes first, if not it's chaos ( seek first to understand, then to be understood LUV: Listen understand validate)
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